You learned about Stand to Pee packers and how to position your TransTape with one, but what about using one? It can be a little difficult at first and there's definitely a learning curve, but you're not alone! Let's talk about using STPs and some tips I've learned along the way.
Hello, you spectacular people!
Its been too long, my friends.
For some, STPs are serious game changers.
They can sometimes help relieve gender dysphoria and provide an all around gender affirming experience for people like myself.
With that said, they do come with a little bit of homework.
It can be really discouraging and intimidating in the beginning of using a stand to pee and that's totally okay.
That's why we're here!
It took me a while to really get the technique down myself and hopefully this will help save you some time on mastering the art of peeing.
What's a Stand to Pee Packer?
In case you missed the last post about packing with TransTape, let's go over what a STP packer is.
STPs are a type of packer typically used by trans men but also many others.
They take packing to another level and allow the user to pee standing up at home, in a public bathroom or outside in mother nature.
If you've ever wanted to pee your name in the snow, this is your sign to get a STP and make your dreams come true.
STPs can be realistic, unrealistic, big, small and you get what I'm saying.
For those of us who struggle with bottom dysphoria, a STP can really make a huge impact on how we view ourselves.
However, you do not need to pee standing up to be valid.
It's simply a personal preference.
How Do I Position It?
The hardest part of using an STP is finding the right position. Once you figure out where it needs to rest, you can start to consider different options for wearing it!
First, everyone's body is different.
And that's a damn beautiful thing.
So different STPs will sit differently on everyone.
If you have a lot of trouble with one and standing to pee is a huge deal for you, try another! Don't call it quits after your first one, keep trying!
STP's are made with different angles, reservoir depths and lengths which will likely cause your positioning to be a little bit different for each one you try.
The best starting point for positioning any STP is to try and line your urethra up with the funnel.
After using it for a time or two, you'll get a good idea if you need to adjust it.
It's a learning process, I've personally made a million mistakes and adjustments with a bunch of different packers and there's nothing wrong with that. It's completely normal when you're learning something new!
If you're used to wearing regular packers, you're probably going to notice that an STP sits lower on your body.
This might feel a little weird or like it's too low, but don't worry! You're doing great and it looks perfect on you!
Once you've found the general placement for your STP, you should also keep in mind how it'll sit when you're using the bathroom with pants on.
This ends up being the biggest factor with STPs that causes me to move on to another one.
Some, because of my anatomy, sit at too much of a downward angle for me to comfortably use in a public bathroom without the fear of a mess.
And well, size does kinda matter here.
How Do I Wear an STP?
There are a few options for wearing an STP, let's discuss!
You already knew I was going to talk about TransTape!
TransTape, in my humble opinion, is the best option for packing with an STP.
There are no harnesses, straps or special pairs of underwear needed if you use TransTape!
And when I used this method for my STP for the first time, it was a euphoric feeling.
I was able to swim, shower and live without worrying about my junk flying all over the place.
You're also not limited to one day of use, which means you're free to pack, pee and play for multiple days with your packing pal hanging naturally from your body.
STP Packing Boxers
Next up after TransTape would be, STP packing boxers.
Yes, there's a difference between regular packing boxers and STP packing boxers.
Regular packing boxers tend to have a pouch or build in o-rings to hold your buddy in place.
STP packing boxers will also have a pouch or built in o-ring, but they'll also have an access flap in the front so you can pull your packer through to use the bathroom.
You could always use a harness.
I personally don't like harnesses.
I don't like the idea of adding another layer underneath my underwear.
That might be your thing!
Harnesses can be helpful because they will keep your pal in place so you're always ready to whip it out when you need it.
Depending on the style and brand, you might have a few straps and the ability to adjust as needed.
Another option, that I've personally never tried, is using high quality adhesive.
Brands like ReelMagik sell skin-safe silicone adhesive to use with their STPs, and some people absolutely love it for packing.
To use adhesive for a STP, you would adhere it in place directly to your skin for a realistic feel and look.
Depending on the brand of adhesive and your activity level, it could last for up to 24 hours but is typically only recommended for about 12 hours at a time on average.
It's totally normal to have issues like leaking while you learn how to use a STP, here are a few tips!
Well, first things first.
Have you tried turning it off and back on again?
If that doesn't solve your problem, I've got some other advice!
1. My STP is leaking!
Don't sweat a little leakage too much, it happens to everyone sometimes!
But if you're leaking every time you use it, it could be because the reservoir of the packer isn't sealing fully around your anatomy or because the reservoir is overfilling faster than it can drain.
All STP packers have reservoirs that hold the urine as it drains out the funnel.
Reservoirs are designed differently and are made to contour our bodies. So ideally, you'll want to find a packer that naturally follows your anatomy without too much extra help.
Easier said than done, but the less you need to manhandle your pal into position, the better!
If that's not your problem and the packer sits nicely, it could be an overfilling issue.
This can be easier to fix, but it does require working on your flow control.
It can be difficult to master that for some people and if it's not easy for you, consider searching for an STP with a deeper reservoir that can hold more urine.
Also always look for ones that say they have "no-spill" lips!
2. My brain is making it hard to pee standing up!
Dude, same! This was super hard for me in the beginning and sometimes I still struggle!
When you first start using an STP, your body might be a little confused as to why you're trying to pee standing up all of the sudden.
For me, my body thought I was playing a prank on it so it took quite a while to really get things flowing.
A good way to start training yourself to pee standing up, is to practice using it in the shower!
Are you telling me to pee in the shower?
I sure am!
You could always use a tub too, don't worry.
The reason I suggest this is because there's a good chance you're going to leak a little bit when you're first starting and your brain is probably trying to help prevent that.
Which again, leaking sometimes is totally normal! The majority of us who use STPs have absolutely peed on ourselves at least once!
Knowing you might leak in the shower and not on the floor, the toilet rim or your clothing can be reassuring which gives your brain a lot less to worry about.
Once you're comfortable peeing in the shower, moving on to a toilet or urinal is going to be a lot easier because you're more confident and less stressed about how you'll need to position and angle your packer to avoid spilling or leaking.
I also drank a lot of water when I was practicing using an STP. It gave me more opportunities to practice but the urgency also helped prevent my brain from overthinking and stopping my flow.
Another thing that helps me think less about it is shifting my focus by singing a song in my head.
Warning, this may cause you to need to pee every time you hear that song going forward.
It can be tricky to get the hang of at first, so try not to stress too much if you don't catch on right away!
Practice Makes Perfect
As exciting as using a STP can be, I don't recommend taking it for a public test run right away without practicing.
I strongly suggest practicing a lot at home before using your STP at work or out and about.
The last thing we want to experience is an 8 hour shift after leaking in our only pair of underwear for the day.
Been. There. Done. That.
If you're damned and determined to use it in public right away, consider carrying an extra pair of underwear with you in case of any accidents.
I've said it quite a few times, but once again, using an STP is a learning process.
Try not to get too discouraged!
I've been using an STP daily for at least two years now and I still mess up sometimes.
And that's okay! Learn at a pace that's right for you.
Try different packers, make those silly mistakes, use different packing techniques, get a painted one, hold it with one hand, hold it with two.
And don't forget to put the toilet seat back down!
Learn to love the learning experience.
It might just change your life for the better.
Until next time,
You are loved and it gets better.
Talk to you soon,
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My name is Jamie and I'm a young (ish) transman born and raised in the Hudson Valley of New York state. I started my transition in May of 2017 and since then, I've made it my mission to live unapologetically as myself and spread awareness through my pursuit of happiness. I am the creator and writer of Spilling T blog, a proud affiliate of TransTape and when I'm not outside with the best dog ever or hanging out with my two cats, I make and sell my own beard care products through Buckaroo's Beard Care. I'm always looking for my next adventure and have been skydiving, road-tripping, hiking in the mountains and even served for a short time in the United States Marine Corps. My life has had its fair share of twists and turns and I hope to use those experiences to create helpful and relatable content that may help someone else navigate a difficult time in life.
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